When You’re an Arab Girl

When you’re an Arab girl, you’re born into them hoping you’ll turn out pretty. When you’re an Arab girl, they let you know your responsibilities early on. The dos and don’ts. When you’re an Arab girl, you’re only two years old but they scold you for what’s 3eib and what’s not. How are you going to be a proper lady who won’t shame them if you don’t know all this early on. You know all they need you to do is sit still look pretty get married have lots of babies take care of them all and wither away, right? Or did you think they wanted more for you? When you’re an Arab girl, your grades at school had better be good but it never hurts if your brother has them better, after all, he’s the one who’s going to be supporting a family, right? When you’re an Arab girl, you’re told it’s much prettier to be physically weak and then you’re told you can’t defend yourself, but it’s ok, you have your brother cousin father friend for that, you don’t need to be strong on your own. When you’re an Arab girl, you’re told there are certain things that you can only do if a male is around, or there to support you, you’d never be able to handle it on your own; how can you fix a malfunction in your car? When you’re an Arab girl, it’s great that you got a degree but we all know you’re not going to eventually use it. When you’re an Arab girl, it’s great when you give out the news that you’re top of your class, but wouldn’t it have been the cherry on top to say you got a fiancé with that as well? When you’re an Arab girl, you’re told that it’s lovely to need a man, you love it too. You’ve come to believe you love it, that feeling of whole he gives you, because you’ve never felt whole on your own. When you’re an Arab girl, you think you have it better because you’re allowed to dress in as little clothes as you want, but you’ve been fooled my dear, it’s only them making you look that way for the man who wants it that way. Don’t mistake that for being liberal, it’s just that some men prefer apples while other prefer cherries. When you’re an Arab girl, your sons are taught to be ashamed of your name, only mentioning you as a title, as if you did not suffer to bring them into this world and up in it. What’s saddest is that when you’re an Arab girl, you’re perpetuating all of this. Break the cycle.

I don’t want that and I want this instead.

When you’re an Arab girl, you’re born into them hoping you’ll turn out smart. When you’re an Arab girl, there’s no mold for you to fit in. When you’re an Arab girl, you’re two years old and it’s alright for you to be showing off your tummy to the entire world like your brother is. It doesn’t matter if you’re proper or not; if you find someone to fit in with all your non-propriety, that’s fine, if not, that’s fine too. All they need from you is to live up to your full potential and lead a life where you are good to people, a life you are proud of. Whether that is you falling in love and getting married and having lots of babies or you never doing that and living a full life of your own, that’s fine too. When you’re an Arab girl, you had better do well at school because we’re paying good money for it and want a good education for you. No excuses. When you’re an Arab girl, you know all the ways you can physically hurt someone because if someone dares touch you in a way that makes you the slightest bit uncomfortable, you can handle it. You don’t need your brother cousin father friend for that, you can go home afterwards and tell them how badly hurt the other guy is, maybe even have a little demo, see how you can do better next time. When you’re an Arab girl, it’s great if you can have a male around, but that doesn’t mean you’re a lady in distress if there’s not. You can do whatever it is just as good as the next guy. Google that malfunction in your car or wait for road side assistance and don’t be overdramatic about it. When you’re an Arab girl, it’s completely enough and great to give the news that you’re top of your class. When you’re an Arab girl, you know it’s lovely to have a partner to complement you but only to do that, because you know how to be whole on your own. When you’re an Arab girl, you don’t spend all your time and energy trying to hook a future hubby’s attention. You work on your brains instead, and if his brains click with yours, welcome him onboard. When you’re an Arab girl, your sons are damn proud to say your name. When you are this Arab girl, you’ve got the whole world in your hands, even though it will hurt some days, but you’ll have the whole world in your gorgeous hands.

PS before you start freaking out (AKA my parents, no I don’t relate to all of this but I see it, so I’m not talking about myself, relax)

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